why are all the women who act intrested in me gold-diggers??

A General discussion about everything other than South Park

Moderator: Big-Will

nick007
Posts: 155
Joined: Fri Jun 13, 2008 1:51 pm

Re: why are all the women who act intrested in me gold-diggers??

Postby nick007 » Thu Jun 26, 2008 4:57 am

Very interesting. When I was little I used to hang-out with the girls a lot because the boys would bully me to much and I sucked in sports so playing with dolls was better than playing with balls for me(pun intended because I didn't know how else to say it) so I started getting picked on by the boys for that to and then I started having what I think would be called gender identity disorder because I used to wish I was a girl but now I'm an asexual that can relate to Ms.Garrison because he was a gay women trapped in a man's body. I don't know how this all relates to stuff but I usualy only shave my face bout 1ce a week and have a mustache till it gets too long, then I shave it off and let it grow back. I also get my hair cut short but don't get it cut often. I do shave parts of my body regulary thou that typically no guy should shave(except for porn stars) and I say to myself I do it for hygenic rezones because when I was in school and took P.E, we had to run track a lot so that cut down on the itching, sweating, odder ect. I look like a hairy guy for the most part that people usualy see except I'm kind of fat sense I quit working so I look kine of like I'm pregnant. Sometimes I do think that I should maybe have a sex-change operation so that way I'd have a better chance with the asexual women who hate guys but that is so complicated and expensive I seriously doubt I could get it.
Anyways most of this stuff I keep to myself and don't tell anyone(only person who knew it all) was my ex. I have no problem keeping this stuff a secret in real life from guys and gals but it would be nice to find a woman to talk bout this stuff with who wouldn't judge and like me for how I act and stuff with her
If I had the chance
I'd ask the world to dance
And I'll be dancing with myself

Billy Idol~ Dancing With Myself

http://www.myspace.com/nickdouble07
Toj
Posts: 16
Joined: Thu May 29, 2008 10:17 am

Re: why are all the women who act intrested in me gold-diggers??

Postby Toj » Thu Jun 26, 2008 10:13 am

You're not, by any chance, a grizzled 1890's prospector are you? :D
Duan Tian Ru
Posts: 56
Joined: Mon Jun 02, 2008 5:57 pm

Re: why are all the women who act intrested in me gold-diggers??

Postby Duan Tian Ru » Thu Jun 26, 2008 10:42 am

Nick-- I don't know you so I can't give you great advice, but I can at least share these stories that I know would help you. :)

No doubt it's true that boys have way more pressure to adhere to their gender requirements- boys have way less freedom to challenge their gender stereotypes. On top of this, boys, like girls, go through "gender intensification".

Like we agreed before, girls have much more freedom to explore both masculine and feminine behavior, but when a girl hits adolescence (marked by physical transformations) she is subjected to "gender intensification" either by her parents, school, friends, or whomever. It's just what it sounds like: a kid is forced through LEARNING the gender behavior, and it's rough. This DEFINITELY happened to me. I was a tomboy growing up and I was 11 when I got my first visit from Aunt Flow- it was terrifying. So, my sis taught me how to use feminine hygiene products, I had to start wearing a "training" bra, learned how to shave my legs, my sis even tried teaching me how to play the piano, it was God awful- I HATED being a girl. Hated hated hated. Then I had to learn how to put on make up and tweeze my eyebrows, waxing, UGH- forget it. And meanwhile I'd look at the boys in my class having fun playing soccer outside. I wanted to be outside climbing trees and sh*t, but instead I had to go shopping, lol. Looking back, it WAS rough and it was a lot to take in at once, but I am who I am today, a shoe shop-aholic because that's just the way things ended up. Do I regret it? I'm still not sure. Frankly, I don't know whether liking shoes and having too many is something I learned or something I like naturally, all I know is that I like shoes and that's my thing. :D

So Nick it's okay to be unsure, everyone at one point or another has questioned him/herself. You don't have to have all the answers.

You wouldn't be the first boy to get picked on for not experiencing more masculine qualities of personality and behavior. (Take aggression for example.) This could be due to a myriad of different things like a lower level of testosterone, maybe the pituitary gland wasn't functioning normally, maybe it's all psychological... like you said before, the docs have no clue-- but you should realize that what you went through makes you the great person you are today, and it's okay to be confused. You don't HAVE to label yourself if you're not sure what you're into- you'll eventually come to a conclusion. From the little you've told me, I'd speculate you were "gender hesistant", hehehe, like me. I totally didn't want to learn girl stuff, I hated it, but I did it and now I am the girl I am today, no regrets.

I say this because the majority of cases I have read about covering authentic gender identity crisis typically deal with androgynous people. Thanks to them, scientists learned that the sex of a human is only partially determined by genetics. You know, chromosomes xx (girl) or xy (boy). If a baby receives contradicting hormones to its genetically predisposed sex, for example an xx baby receiving too much testosterone, then you get an intersex person. I remember watching a documentary on a human who was born FEMALE (xx chromosomes), but she had a penis (it wasn't actually an all out penis, it was just a huge... well you know, c*it). :? So, they deemed her male. And growing up, he/she found him/herself experiencing mental pms on top of being attracted to men, so on the inside she was a girl, and on the outside she appeared to be a homosexual boy. To compensate for "being a woman on the inside", she exaggerated her masculinity and started to work out like crazy and started competing in male body-building competitions. She said that her problem came from "thinking feminine," and she said something about living up to her false assignment as male. Her and other androgynous people have been on life-long roller coasters: I think there's like a wickedly high amount of attempted suicides within the androgynous population. There is a huge conflict between what your body says/has, what society says/sees, and what an androgynous person feels inside emotionally. I mean, it was really a mind-blowing documentary because it's like, "Holy sh*t, people LEARN gender, wtf?" But it's true. So Nick, don't ever ever think you're alone when it comes to being confused about anything really, I mean, anyhow that's a philosophical truth that whatever you've felt emotionally, it's guaranteed that someone else has either matched it or exceeded it- there is no unique emotion or thought. You're not alone kiddo, and any girl to find you would be lucky because you are honest with yourself and others, something that's hard to find!!! I wish you the best, Nick, you have a lot going for you!!
I still remember his oft repeated pronouncement that a man needed a Japanese wife, Chinese food and Scotch whiskey to have a perfect life.

-Martha Nemes Fried
nick007
Posts: 155
Joined: Fri Jun 13, 2008 1:51 pm

Re: why are all the women who act intrested in me gold-diggers??

Postby nick007 » Fri Jun 27, 2008 3:52 am

Thanx for that. I'm learning a lot. I do find it interesting that when I would talk bout this on most other message-boards I'd get jumped for something else that I didn't say the rite way but yet on the SouthPark board, it's kewl and people here actually make sense of it.
As I say in my MySpace pro, I try to be real so I am brutally honest sometimes and maybe I come off as unsympathetic and strong opinionated sometimes. But I am the way I am. I try to be true to myself but it's kind of hard when you don't know yourself but I'm learning alot just by talking on boards and stuff and other relationships I have with friends, family, work buddies, even from the relationship with my ex. I grew a lot from that and I don't regret it. I just don't like being in the same boat so the speak that I was before her except I have some work experience now and I'm on meds so I'm probably more stable and I know more but I'm going bald now. Not that it really matters to me I just get my hair cut shorter now and don't let it get as long. Some of my cousins are going bald to so I'm not alone in this. I just wish I was more unique then that would be my whole angle to find someone LOL but now I have to find another approach. I'l keep learning and doing what I can to grow as a person from it but I do analyze things to much instead of trying to move on but I'm working on it.

Now I'm not sure what else to say here LOL I do have a lot to think bout now so that's good but I'l try not to over analyze LOL
If I had the chance
I'd ask the world to dance
And I'll be dancing with myself

Billy Idol~ Dancing With Myself

http://www.myspace.com/nickdouble07
Duan Tian Ru
Posts: 56
Joined: Mon Jun 02, 2008 5:57 pm

Re: why are all the women who act intrested in me gold-diggers??

Postby Duan Tian Ru » Fri Jun 27, 2008 5:27 am

Dude it's all good Nick. :D That's something I noticed on this board too- although there's like debates and sh*t and we disagree, everyone is really decent and articulate in this forum- which just goes to show you that SP fans are high quality people, :mrgreen: .

Transparency and sincerity is what you got and it's a beautiful thing- no hidden agendas, so maybe that can be your "selling point" haha.

You're just lucky I ran into your post right after I got all 4 of my wisdom teeth out. I haven't been able to go to work much less get out of bed to feed myself so I've been "hanging out" in the internet with my laptop this whooole time- so thanks to you I didn't go out of my mind from boredom. :D (That, some jello, some south park episodes and some movies to keep me entertained.)
I still remember his oft repeated pronouncement that a man needed a Japanese wife, Chinese food and Scotch whiskey to have a perfect life.

-Martha Nemes Fried
nick007
Posts: 155
Joined: Fri Jun 13, 2008 1:51 pm

Re: why are all the women who act intrested in me gold-diggers??

Postby nick007 » Sat Jun 28, 2008 2:44 am

I'm sorry you had to get your wisdom teeth out. My dad had it done when he was like 18 and they just numbed it and tried to dig em out and cuple of em broke apart and every now and then he finds another piece of tooth in his mouth when he's brushing and rinsing it comes out. I never had wisdom teeth so I guess I'm not smart or a wizard LOL but one of my couins had it done a while back and it wasn't nearly as bad as when my dad had it but from what he said it was till bad. Can you eat ice-cream or does the coldness of it mess with your mouth rite now?? because if it doesn't and I was you, I'd pig-out on it and if I get fater and lose the rest of my teeth that be fine with me. They could lock me in the freezer and throw a way the key.

But least wer keeping each other entertained and I'm learning a lot. I've been working with a state gov agentcei that helping me on the job front and I recently took some skills assessment test things so I'm waiting for em to look over it all and do their paper-work and get back with me. I need/want to do something soon because I'm to bored the rest of the time LOL
If I had the chance
I'd ask the world to dance
And I'll be dancing with myself

Billy Idol~ Dancing With Myself

http://www.myspace.com/nickdouble07
nick007
Posts: 155
Joined: Fri Jun 13, 2008 1:51 pm

Re: why are all the women who act intrested in me gold-diggers??

Postby nick007 » Tue Jul 01, 2008 4:30 pm

For some rezone I feel like the song "Song 4 Tricia (Princes and Frogs)" by Superchic[k] may be relevant in this post bout how I feel with women rejecting me


all princes start as frogs
and all gentleman as dogs
just wait till it's plain to see
what we're growing up to be..

coz some frogs will still be frogs
some dogs will still be dogs
but some boys can become men
just don't kiss us till then

you hate men is what you say
and i understand how you feel that way
all girls dream of a fairy tail
but what you got's like a used car sales

man, trying to conceal what's wrong
behind a smile and a song
and i'm not saying that boys are not like that
but i think you should know
that some of us will grow
because...

all princes start as frogs
all gentleman as dogs
just wait till it's plain to see
what we're growing up to be..

coz some frogs will still be frogs
some dogs will still be dogs
but some boys can become men
just don't kiss us till then

you found him is what you say
and we all want you to feel that way
if the frog you got seems cute enough to kiss
it maybe frogs seem like that's all there is

but just because you haven't found your prince
yet doesnt mean your still not a princess
what if your prince comes riding in
while your kissing a frog what's he

gonna think then so look in to his
eyes are you a princess or a fly

all princes start as frogs
all gentleman as dogs
just wait till it's plain to see
what we're growing up to be..

coz some frogs will still be frogs
some dogs will still be dogs
but some boys can become men
just don't kiss us till then
If I had the chance
I'd ask the world to dance
And I'll be dancing with myself

Billy Idol~ Dancing With Myself

http://www.myspace.com/nickdouble07

Return to “Off Topic Discussion”

Who is online

Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 2 guests