"The world will know peace when humanity is extinguished."
-- False Awakenings
Because trust me, I can't think of straight, normal guy who wants an acne-ridden chubby girl with unstable emotions. An acne-ridden chubby girl with a great personality I understand. Or a pretty girl with unstable emotions I understand. But all of them together is unacceptable unless the guy is a nightmare or gay.
Anyway, here's what I look for in a girl:
1. Fresh breath
2. Well read/good conversationalist
3. I am attracted to her, and she to me.
4. Smokes pot or at least is tolerant of it
5. Emotional stability
6. Has never slept with anyone better-looking than I.
7. Overall health/vitality/sense of life
8. Likes South Park
9. Full deepthroat capabilities
10. Well-managed vagina
I can't think of straight, normal guy who wants an acne-ridden chubby girl with unstable emotions
OK, don't get me wrong here. I'm not trying to come on to you at all here. But I'd never say from your picture, that your hideously, Ugly-bob level unatractive Lolrus. Just a little plain, that's all, avarage. Same goes for your BF, not a monster, not hunkadora. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and your BF may like your looks, it all depends on what he likes.
ButtersKenny wrote:in other words butters?
Yeah, just put Butters personality on an adult person, and that's my perfect partner right there. I like healing peeps. I met a RL Butters once, not interested in me though sadly, well, not in that way.
lolrus wrote:Perhaps "opposites attract" is true sometimes
It all depends on what traits your opposite, and how strongly opposed you are. If your politically opposite, that isn't usually good; in fact, opposite beliefs are usually a very bad sighn. Now opposite temperments are useful, but it's generally the simmilarities that attract. From the few relationships I've seen.
lolrus wrote:It's much more important to get to know said person before you start randomly f*cking them.
It all depends on what you want out of a relationship. But if you want it to last, personality must play a biger part than physical pleasure.
Some marraiges even end up being based on shoddy motives. In fact, a lot of marraiges are based on social or economic gains or escape from some latent pain. As the McCartney marraige can attest, they don't usually do well.
I wouldn't preclude all relationships that start with an ulterior motive. You could discover you really like the person for who they are, even if you start dating them for the wrong reasons. But if you only date them for those reasons, it won't bring happiness or last.
A little too much sted is placed in trust for my liking; to be able to perfectly trust your partner, you're expecting them to be super-human. You need to give them a lee-way for error, but a general feeling of trust is nescicary.
It all depends on the kind of person involved. Some people want to be controlled, and get pleasure out of not having to deal with things by themselves, and others love to controll. It really depends weather the two people's views on controll are compatable. Two dominating partners is never a recipy for success, nor are two totally dependants.
HAT wrote:ALCOHOL AND OTHER SUBSTANCE USE-RELATED STUFF
Wouldn't really change my view of the person. Unless they cared more about the substance than me of course. Unless I had a flaw to even it out.
HAT wrote:JEALOUSY ISSUES
Jelousy is a real bummer; if the partner doesn't want you to have any other friends, are they worth that sacrifice? Are they better than ALL the friends you forgo for them? They're probably hypocrits too.
Doesn't have to be for long if a mobile phone is bought:) But no, paranoia isn't a good sign, it links to jelousy.
All depends on what you look for in a relationship. If it's a polygamous/open relationship, not too important (but is the relationship really impoertant?) but otherwise... most relationships should be committed, but don't let a little affair ruin a long relationship.
Few successful relationships put are based entirly around this; when the looks fade, do you still love them? Is it love or lust?
Openess is a nescecity. Yes, no area should be off limits in a loving couple.
I could never date someone who hated South Park
But seriously, they need a few interests in common, and can't HATE your interests, or the relationship can't really suceed without changing the partners.
Can't be overstated. It all depends what kind of things you tollerate and what traits you hate. Aall very subjective, but central to the relationship.
Basically, a big thing with me is I can't stand shallow guys or girls. Someone who has nothing better to do than look down their nose at people because of their body type, or how they dress, or for other reasons is a huge turn off for me. Why would I want to be intimate with someone who reminds me of the assh*les at my highschool? I would want someone who showers regularly and wears clean clothes and brushes their teeth, but I am not a freak about grooming..Infact I would definately prefer someone who doesn't resemble the yuppie scum I deal with at my job everyday.
I would also prefer someone who had enough in common with me that we can have fun doing things together. I would prefer someone who is also a huge horror fan so I wouldn't feel like I am dragging him or her to every horror movie I want to see the way some girls drag their boyfriends to chick flicks. And I definately would want someone who likes to go out and have fun..Go to the movies, or the beach, or to concerts or to the casinos or bars around here. I don't want to be stuck with someone who just wants to stay home all the time.
I also want someone who isn't possessive. Someone who understands that the friends I have had in my life before I met him/her are important to me too, and doesn't want me to choose him/her over my friends. I want someone stable enough to be secure in the relationship and not worry that my friends are going to turn me against him or her.,My former best friend chose her boyfriend over me and my brother because he didn't like us and she wanted to please him. You can imagine how that felt. I would not tolerate someone who would try to manipulate me into doing that to my friends, or who would control me the way he controls her. And needless to say, I am not going to let a guy run my life, or tell me what kind of job I should be doing or how I should dress or any of that crap.
As far as the rest of the stuff I would look for goes I don't really know except for I want someone who treats me well..I know the answer everyone wants to hear is that I am looking for someone emotionally stable, but it isn't the honest answer for me,I have been attracted to certain people who aren't. And, by the way for the most part all but one of them were nice people. And well, not everyone can help being unstable. People get emotionally unstable often for sh*t that happens in their lives they don't want. Nobody's perfect and that is the problem I think alot of people have in relationships. They are looking for someone perfect when they start out, and when they get in a relationship, they expect their partner to be perfect, and when that expectation isn't met,the problems begin. People aren't perfect. They have issues, and bad habits, and sometimes they get out of shape as they get older, and they get too tired to do stuff like clean the house. That is the way it is. The most important thing to consider in a relationship is if the other person treats you well and if you and them are happy together, and I think alot of people forget that.
Someone who has nothing better to do than look down their nose at people because of their body type, or how they dress, or for other reasons is a huge turn off for me
If all a person cares about is looks, they arn't worth knowing. Maybee worth f*cking, but not knowing and loving. When the looks fade, do you still want to be with that slime-ball? That said, physical attraction is an important part of long-term marraige often, but it shouldn't be the most importan thing or the base of the relationship.
I want to share interests
If someone hates all the things I like, they pretty much hate me. If a few interests are out, that's fine, but when 90% of my time is spent doing something the other side either is meh about or hates outright, it's not the recipy for success.
I also want someone who isn't possessive
One person is never worth giving up all others for.
I have been attracted to certain people who aren't.
The big problem with AYM's point (well one of the big problems) is that a lot of people like instability. I'm not sure weather I'm attracted to it (in friends and love interests) because It's interesting and I'm boring or because I want to 'cure' them and make them feel better about their problems, but it does attract some people. Just because other people have different tastes to you AYM, doesn't mean they're gays in hiding.
...oh well, to each their own.
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people who can make me laugh and/or smile
people who are honest
people that are willing to fight for what they think is right
people that will accept me for who I am
people who don't care if I'm quiet sometimes
people who share some of my intrests (metal and rock music [I hate country], art, photography, horror movies, blah blah blah.)
someone who is goofy and fun, but can be serious when needed
arrogant assh*les who think they are better than everyone else
stupid full-of-themselves jocks who think they are great even
though they get lost in a conversation if you use a word with
more than five letters
people who change something about themselves just because other people tell them they should
people who make fun of others that are trying their best
people who WILL NOT listen to reason or WILL NOT admit when they were wrong
What I look for most is someone who will be themselves no matter what the circumstances. ..... to bad I live in a hick town full of stupid stereotypical rednecks who don't accept anyone who is different than them and think that everyone has to fall into a certain category. Maybe that's the reason I've never had a boyfriend... or it could be the fact that whenever I actually find someone I like I can never find the courage to ask them out or even talk to them.
I'll probably add more to this later, but my internet connection is being stupid right now.
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This is not to say that you guys should lower your standards, but merely that you should follow where your hearts lead you; don't let your expectations get in the way.
Furthermore, on the subject of opposite people's compatibility, it's a toss-up between whether you want someone who compliments you and is everything you are not, and someone who embodies you and relates to you as a parallel. As a student of Philosophy and Literature, I've found that scholars and writers are officially stumped in determining which is better.
In short, there are no rules regarding love. It's far too personal to make generalizations, even for yourself.
Mr. Hat: I had a friend in college say to me in all seriousness, "Dan, you know how they say there's someone out there for everyone? I don't think there's anyone out there for you."
So you have never seen Teh Lorus, and since I haven't seen you around lately, I assume you don't really know her...Don't you feel a little like an ass for making the comment about her that you made? Here is me being an honest bitch. Alot of Girls ( unless they are bitches) would be completely turned off by what you said to her, because for one alot of girls look for guys they can have long term relationships with, and since you had some shallow things to say about chubby girls, any woman in her right mind wouldn't consider hooking up with you for a relationship, because what if a few years down the road she became chubby. I don't know what you look like, and I am turned off by you. Even if it turned out you looked like Johnny Depp or Matt Stone I wouldn't even consider touching you, because I know how arrogant and shallow you are.
I said that if she were pock-faced and chubby, but had a great personality, I could see how a boy would like her. Or if she was pretty but emotionally unstable, I could see that too. But the combination of ugly on the inside and the outside is unacceptable (would you date a guy who was both ugly and a jerk?). So it made me think that maybe she's a gay boy's beard. I was also suspicious when she said that one boy was getting too forward and was kind of a creep, which made me think her current boyfriend isn't forward at all, reinforcing my beard theory.
That's all I was saying. I really don't see that as being shallow. It's just me being contrarian as usual. The truth of the matter is that much of men's sexual attraction is visually based. Any man who says differently is lying to you in order to sound sensitive. There's a reason Playboy is a billion-dollar industry and Playgirl is a maybe-million-dollar industry, and it's because of what I said: men like looks. Women are attracted to things like intelligence and security, with less emphasis on the visuals.
Men also like non-physical factors, but 9 times out of 10, a guy sees a pretty girl and prays she's also cool.
If my girlfriend put on a bunch of weight, I don't know what I'd do, but I don't see why I'd want to be in a relationship with someone whom I didn't find attractive.
That's called marriage.
So no, I don't feel like an ass.
By the way "alot" is actually two words -- "a lot" -- and in any case, the word you should have used was "many" because you're supposed to use "many" when whatever you're referring to is quantifiable: "many girls" vs. "a lot of effort."
Though, i must say, looks can NEVER be the basis for a lasting relationship. Or a substantial part of it.
Just because a boy isn't a pervert, doesn't mean he's a pervert... that is to say, just because he doesn't want it 24/7 doesn't mean he's geh, even if you have an unquenchable apitite for the leediez.
Your marraige WILL not last. If you havn't already, you WILL have an affair. You wil not see your kids, you'll get a bad settlment. If you're married. Your wife WILL get old, fat, saggy tits, wrinkled, and you'll run out on her like your Phill Collins or something. Your as shallow as Collins you know.
Grammer Nazism doesn't make you a good person, either. Thanks for being honest about being a shallow sex maniac though.
Yes, guys focus on looks. But not every guy likes the same thing or likes girls who look like whatever is the current standard of beauty. I know guys who are good examples of this, their girlfriends aren't thin, and they seen pretty happy with who they are with.
Oh and by the way, any girls reading what you said about not knowing what you would do if your girlfriend put on alot of weight, well, for any girls with a brain, that is a red flag right there. Do not date, and certainly do not f*ck this shallow assh*le.You know, women don't just gain weight because of over eating or not exercising enough, there are forms of birth control that has weight gain as a side effect too. What if you got in a relationship with a girl you really liked, you and her decided to go get birth control and a few months later weight gain turned out to be a side effect of whatever she was using? What would you do then?
As for the grammer Nazism, who cares? This is a message board, not an english assignment.
I think you guys are taking Aym Dand much more seriously than one ever should. He made an Internet Male joke, and now it's not even funny anymore.
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